Metamorphosis through Meditation – Surviving Metastatic Cancer
How I became a Butterfly
By Jennifer Cantrell
No-one can prepare you for the words: “ The cancer has spread
to your liver and lungs and there is nothing I can do” and
the feeling that death is closer than you ever imagined. The mind
can destroy you before the disease does.
I am on a journey – a journey of self discovery, a journey
of life. For the first time in my whole life I am starting to feel
awake to life. I feel alive! The last 43 years have been a mind controlled
roller coaster ride and it is only through a life threatening illness
I have realised how much lack of presence in the now I have had and
how important meditation is to help still the mind and focus on the
present.
I am blessed and thankful for everything I have and everything I
am. My husband, family and friends, my oncologist, surgeon, naturopath,
psychologist have all helped immensely in the healing process and
helped me on this journey of self discovery. A cancer patient wrote
in Lance Armstrong’s book, “It’s not about the
Ride”, that we were the lucky ones – now I know why!
I initially had surgery and radiation treatment after being diagnosed
with breast cancer and refused chemo for several reasons, but after
6 months, after discovering a lump under my arm – scans showed
that the cancer had spread. The metastases were from the original
tumour and a scan at the initial diagnosis would have discovered
this. I was devastated I was sure I had done everything I could – changed
my diet, increased my vitamin supplements, weekly yoga and meditation,
daily walks, raw juices, decreased stress levels – but on reflection
these were only actions. I ticked them off forgetting the most important
area that needed to be healed was my mind and emotions!
My background was in health and fitness and I was studying Naturopathy
and working in a Clinic where a fair percentage of the clients were
cancer patients.
I read numerous books to educate myself and tried various methods
to help overcome the fear I felt. I increased my vitamin and herbal
supplements, had weekly vitamin C infusions, ate organic food, eliminated
dairy and meat from the diet, ate apricot kernels and reduced the
stresses in my life again. When you are in fear of losing your life
you will try anything!
I found a wonderful compassionate oncologist and we began my orthodox
treatment of Chemotherapy and Herceptin (a new antibody that I had
tested positive for.) Along with my husband, family, and friends
my team and healing programme were in place!
I felt I had the basic tools and the positive attitude – but
I was missing something, something to push me more towards my goal
of finding peace of mind. My intuition told me however that it was
on a spiritual and emotional level that I need to heal and everyday
I started doing up to 3 hours of physical relaxation techniques and
some meditation tapes I had from the Ashram. I started to feel more
relaxed and my orbit started to slow – of course at times I
was dreadfully ill but I was better prepared for it with my new state
of being.
But it wasn’t enough - I wanted to find peace of mind and
I wanted to really understand what meditation was all about. I made
the connection that meditation was the vital jigsaw puzzle piece
to give me peace of mind, a sense of my inner body and who I really
am. “I have a mind I am not my mind” - Petrea King (a
survivor of leukaemia and director of the Quest for Life Foundation
in Bundanoon) kept repeating like a mantra when I went down with
my husband for a week retreat, and at first I did not understand
what she meant!
I have done yoga and meditation all my life to varying degrees.
Meditation I only did sporadically and really had no sense of what
I was doing or trying to achieve thus it was an easy practice to
give away. Why ? because it was too hard – too hard to get
out of bed, too hard to still the mind, too hard to sit cross legged
- just plain too hard. How can something so easy, yet so life transforming
be so hard ?
I have practised Yoga since I was 15 – all different types,
but never completely disciplined enough to make it a daily practice.
Sometimes I like the more physical disciplines of Iyengar or Bikrams,
or something different more energising and heart related like Dru
Yoga – but I have always gone back to the Manly Ashram to continue
Hatha Yoga, Yoga Nidra and Meditation – but never realising
why I was drawn to this style of yoga and meditation.
Six months on your back virtually in a self and chemical imposed
retreat of sorts to rid the body of the cancer that has now invaded
the lungs and liver, gives you a lot of time to think about life.
My main goal changed after spending a week at Petrea Kings’ program
in Bundanoon. I didn’t want to do battle with my disease – that
meant wasting energy. Energy I needed to heal. My goal was to achieve
peace of mind – whatever that meant and felt – I wanted
to live whatever time I had left in my life with peace.
My psychologist was a Buddhist Monk who had disrobed. He taught
mindfulness meditation and led retreats and meditation classes. Although
I was too sick to attend these, he would lead me on a personal meditation
during my session with him. I started to read more and more – about
Buddhism, Mindfulness meditation and started to understand with more
awareness what I was doing and how important it was to still my mind
and truly be awake in this beautiful crazy world.
It was about this time that I had a spiritually life changing experience.
I was down at Bundanoon at the Buddhist Monastery that John Barter
had sent me to, walking with the Venerable Sujarto to a beautiful
waterfall and rainforest area. I was walking behind him – watching
his measured steps – each one deliberate, slow and done with
full consciousness.
As I followed him the visual scene in my mind became clear – the
lifecycle of a butterfly - a cocoon, caterpillar – and the
emerging butterfly, beautiful, serene and free. I saw my cocoon as
my incessant thinking mind, my habits and addictions, my human physical
body and my retreat from society to heal and get well. The caterpillar
was the use of meditation, eating nutritious organic foods, orthodox
treatment and the life saving changes I would need to make to complete
my own lifecycle. And finally the emergence of something so beautiful,
serene and at peace:- a butterfly – me! A simple normal daily
insect lifecycle was the metaphor for my life. I knew that I was
going to be that butterfly and that meditation was going to be the
key to my metamorphosis. In that moment I knew I was going to be
okay.
I was too sick to attend the Ashram during the healing process of
chemotherapy to continue my now vitally important yoga and meditation.
I had no energy to do yoga – it was an effort to clean my teeth,
but I kept focused that this was only temporary and that I would
get back to yoga. Meditation continued daily lying down in my bed
again knowing that eventually I would sit up again to do my meditation.
I surrendered and accepted it as all part of the process.
They say that books come into your life at certain times to guide
you – for me Eckhart Tolle’s, “The Power of Now”,
a book on spiritual enlightenment was that book. It reinforced everything
about the Mind – about how much it controls us by looking back
into the past with regrets and guilt and projecting itself in the
future with fear and forgetting to be present in the Now. We must
watch the thinker (our minds) and be more present to have real peace
of mind. My mind was all over the place – fear of dying, fear
of not living my dreams together with my husband, my regrets about
the past. When I started to really watch my mind I realised how much
my mind was either in the past or in the future and very rarely in
the present. I had a lot of work to do!
Then I went to the Satyananda Mangrove Mountain Ashram for a Yoga
and Meditation weekend and all the jigsaw puzzle pieces seemed to
come together. Finally after 28 years, I had an understanding of
the importance of the Asanas in Yoga and the Pranayama in preparation
for meditation. Finally, clarity and understanding of the importance
of being aware of your physical body, of being in touch with your
inner body and mind and being present in the now. It all seemed so
obvious but I had been blind to it before.
Our wonderful teachers – Rishi Yoga Diwali and Rishi Nityabodhananda,
looked themselves at peace with life, they glowed, they were present
and I was thankful that I have had some amazing teachers along my
journey of discovery so far.
Love is also an important part of this process of transformation
into a butterfly and I would never have achieved it so successfully
without the deepest love of my beautiful husband, puppy, family and
friends. I am blessed to have a loving, caring, passionate husband
to share my journey with – he is my soul mate, lover and best
friend.
My friends and family were amazing – cooking, cleaning, transporting,
walking the dog, calling to check if I needed anything, sending me
gifts, praying for me – I felt so loved and wanted and it made
me feel blessed and thankful for my life.
At the stage of writing, my scans have come through clear and I
am in remission. I keep remembering a quote I read early on that
said “even advanced breast cancer can be overcome “,
and at the moment I am living proof of that. I know that nothing
is a given and I take each day at a time. So I continue with my antibody
treatment every 3 weeks and stay cautiously optimistic, living in
the present.
Meditation is an amazing tool, I wish everyone could understand
how important it is, how much it awakens you to this life ….but
that is other peoples journeys and I guess when they are ready to
experience the metamorphosis and finally become awake, they too will
discover peace of mind and joy for living.
Thankyou to everyone who helped me along my journey thus far and
I look forward to my daily meditation practice, achieving peace of
mind and being present in the now. There really is no better place
to be!
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